About dating and how to get a life partner? My views.

As for love marriage you need DATES is not it?

DATE WILL NOT WORK, AS NORMALLY PPL THINK THAT IT WILL:

1st ISLAMIC point of view:

Dating is 100% not Islamic no matter who is meeting either boyfriend or girlfriend or true lovers. DATING IS GOOD ONLY WITH UR SPOUSE, & IT WILL BE HELPFUL FOR BOTH OF HUSBAND AND WIFE, IT WILL INCREASE LOVE B/W BOTH OF THEM.
2nd DATING is not reality it is just a “DREAM WORLD”, so date will not give u a good life time partner:
I saw ppl dating soooo many times, and what it was nothing but a lie. I mean both daters try to prove the other partner as if they r ANGEL type, means
1- Daters pretend to be more good i.e.: behavior, courtesy, moral, ethics etc than they actually r. so u can’t c the reality & IF U CAN’T C THE REALITY THROUGH THEN DATING HAS NO USE.

2- Daters show off more money than they actually have. So u can’t c the reality & IF U CAN’T C THE REALITY THEN DATING HAS NO USE.

3- Daters put on great dresses on dates which they normally not use not even in functions. So u can’t c the reality.

4- Daters often brag about themselves than they actually r. So u can’t c the reality & IF U CAN’T C THE REALITY THEN DATING HAS NO USE.

5- Daters some times have to lie, which is certainly not good for any sort of relationship. So u can’t c the reality & IF U CAN’T C THE REALITY THEN DATING HAS NO USE.


& there are tons of tons many reasons for “not dating”.

HOW U CAN GET VERY GOOD LIFE PARTNER?

U could get information of any one by asking about her or him from others, which will be the real personality of that person, u can also observe his/her behavior by observing him/her from a distance (WITHOUT STARING), e.g.: like how he/she deals with elders, kids, poor, subordinates, his/her courtesy, his/her ethics. So u can get good spouse. & certainly u can c the face as well this is not against ISLAM (BUT NO STARING WITH LUST). Greatest example of this was the marriage of Hazrat Khadija (R.A) with Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), it can also be called LOVE MARRIAGE but through checking characters of each other from a distance.

& People in the western world, all do LOVE MARRIAGES, and their divorce rate is far more than eastern countries where still divorce rate is not that much, due to ARRANGE MARRIAGES, what do you think?

By

Syed Arbab Ahmed,

from
Karachi, Pakistan.